Devastated about my husband’s wealthy(ish) family’s reaction to my first big gift for him.

I come from poverty. It is what it is, I had a VERY rich childhood in all the ways except financially. Christmas was saved for year round, and we got one thing to wear, one book, and one fun thing. My husband comes from a family that grossed $300k a year and Christmas was always a massive show off. Each kid had $2000+ under the tree, easy. My husband and I started dating five years ago and have been married for 2.5. We’ve clawed our way up in life (he was not given financial help as an adult) and this year is the first time we can spend some decent money on Christmas. He has been wanting a guitar for some time. He has never played and has expressed interest so many times, but we couldn’t do it financially. I did lots of research and from what I saw, beginners guitars were $150ish and went from there, up to your $5k+ for really nice ones. I AGONIZED over what I was going to choose, and ended up telling him to cut the budget for me so that I could surprise him with a really nice gift (so I thought). My original budget was $500 but I really wanted to go big or go home. It ended up being around $900 CAD, plus $200 for accessories or so. Being able to spend that amount is just… unfathomable for a former poor kid. But I did it because he deserves it, we finally have the means, and I was BEYOND excited to see his face light up! Christmas morning comes and the tree gifts wait until his family arrives. I am basically giddy at this point with excitement. Our turn comes for couple gifts and I bring the guitar case out from its hiding place. He’s SO excited and opens the case, revealing the guitar. And then… “Oh, thanks babe. Never heard of this brand.” Not the overwhelming joy I was hoping for, but it’s not about me, right? His brother says, “Awe, it’s nice. A decent cheapy one to start out with.” His dad chimes in, having played in his 20’s, and says it’s known for its lower end models, and they’d be happy to chip in for a “nice” one next year if he sticks with it. I have never felt such a punch to the gut. I assume I’m overthinking as per usual, but I am still so devastated from this ten seconds of today and I can’t even really verbalize why. It felt like I was 9 years old again, trying to be excited about my new Aeropostale hoodie with my friend that got a MacBook and a Disney trip for Christmas. I think those comments affected how my husband viewed it too, because he hasn’t touched it since, despite wanting it so badly for years. I guess I’m just venting. I feel so small and I just had to get it out ☹️ submitted by /u/Complex-Club-6111 to r/TwoXChromosomes [link] [comments]